Trust is vital for any marriage to survive. So my question today for you is simply this: Do you trust your husband?
There are so many areas to trust him in. First you may think of trusting him to be faithful to you. Granted, this is necessary, but trust doesn’t end here. Really, this is just the beginning.
Husbands have a lot of responsibility on them. As the head of the home, they’re accountable to God for how they lead your family. Biblically, they’re told to love, lead, and labor. They are to be the providers of the home. Some wives work outside of the home, and that’s okay. But the husband was given the responsibility to provide. Too many men are enjoying being stay-at-home dads while the wife works, and this isn’t God’s plan. (Working from home isn’t the same as what I’m referring to here.)
Our husbands need our trust. Our trust gives them confidence and motivation. But for some, this doesn’t come easy, for whatever reason.
Dear wife, if you’re struggling to trust him, please stay with me for a moment. This can be changed. God had given us answers in His Word.
Are you praying for your husband? If you’re not praying for his leadership in your home, you will have a harder time trusting him. Praying for him, asking God to lead him, will help you to trust and follow your husband. God’s will for you as a wife is to follow your husband’s leading and He will help you to do this!
Proverbs 31:12 says “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” I’d say praying for your husband is definitely doing him good!
Proverbs 14:1 reminds us that “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Prayer helps you to build your home biblically.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 simply says, “Pray without ceasing.”
Philippians 4:6-7 says “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
We are to take EVERYTHING to God in prayer!
When you pray for your husband, your faith in God increases, you see Him working in your husband’s life, and God gives the peace you need to trust your husband and follow his leading. Praying for him helps you to trust him. It really is that simple.
I’d like to share a personal experience from my own life recently. I pray for my husband daily. There’s a few things I am specific on, including wisdom in his job and as he leads our family and the decisions that need to be made. There was a rather large purchase my husband wanted to make. I agreed it was a need. I just don’t like spending money. I am the saver in this marriage and he’s the spender. It’s a great balance, really. I kept praying for him to have wisdom, and for us to make the right purchase. No one wants to buy something that isn’t right or doesn’t work the way you need it to. While I didn’t want to spend the money, I wanted to trust his decision. God gave peace, and I truly believe He led us to exactly what we needed. I am so thankful that God worked it all out and I was able to praise Him for the results, and to say “thank you” to my husband for the decisions he made for our family. My heart is full. For that I am so thankful. I got the wonderful opportunity to see God work in my life and home. Not to mention the example this sets for my kids. God desires you to have this, too!
Now, I understand we have a free will. I understand we are all imperfect and make mistakes. However, that is no excuse to not pray for your husband and trust the Lord. Your husband may make a mistake, and that’s okay. You’re trusting the Lord, remember? God may use what you feel to be a mistake to grow you and your marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-24 and Colossians 3:18 I believe make it clear that the husband is the head of the home and should have the final authority. Pair this with the reminder in James 4:2-3, “Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.” God wants us to ask! We are to pray specifically, not in generalities. We are to pray and ask for His will so we aren’t asking amiss.
I love that this portion is placed right before the instructions for the family: “Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;” Ephesians 5:17-20
Be a grateful spouse. Be filled with the Spirit. Filling your heart and mind with godly things. This keeps our focus on Jesus. “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3
Some final encouragement:
“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,”Ephesians 3:20
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9
God is able. He’s still on the throne. Trust Him. Trust His plan for your life, your home, and your marriage. He created marriage. He knows EVERYTHING about you and your husband. He knows what He is doing. His blueprint for your marriage is perfect, even if we don’t always understand. Trust Him.
With Hope in His Service
Heather
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