Are you making plans for 2021 yet?
Are you ready to put 2020 behind you?
Are you trying to decide on the new year’s goals and resolutions?
Planning, preparing, praying, making changes, and seeking growth are ALL wonderful things. I am not against any of that.
As ready as you may be to leave 2020 behind, if you’re not careful, you’ll spend all of 2021 in a state of comparison. Always comparing 2021 to 2020. This is not where your focus should be. Even worse, we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others.
Do your New Year’s goals and resolutions sound anything like “keep my home clean like Sarah.” Or “Be a fun mom like Lindsey.” I pray they don’t.
I am ALL for growth and change. There is NOTHING wrong with that. As long as it’s healthy.
Getting your focus shifted to Sarah’s home and Lindsey’s parenting is not healthy nor godly.
God has given us examples in the Bible and godly friends that we can learn from. Please don’t confuse this with comparing yourself to another person. Comparison makes us desire to be like them rather than like Jesus. This is where the problem lies.
If we are trying to measure up to anything, make sure it’s the Word of God. Your goals and resolutions should be “Love like Jesus”, “Witness like Paul”, “Serve like Martha”, etc. Spiritual growth, a closer relationship with God, are the goals we should be setting. Everything else will flow from that. “And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.” Colossians 1:18 KJV
I am for the latest cleaning schedule and routine so you can have a cleaner home, scheduling in time on weekends for family days and vacations, and for setting a stricter budget. Just keep your focus on Jesus. Not seeking to do those things to be like another person. Do it for your own health, your family’s well-being, financial freedom, and because it’s Bible. Trying to be another person will never bring the satisfaction you’re looking for. Remember that we all hide the things we don’t want others to know. What you see on social media isn’t always reality.
God created you to be your husband’s wife and your children’s mother. No one else can rightfully fill this role. He didn’t make a mistake with you or your family.
Seek to be who God created you to be. Do not seek to be someone else. Your family needs YOU. Not Sarah or Lindsey. You.
With Hope in His Service